Choosing to return to the dating world after 50 can be a very nerve-wracking task, especially if you have not dated in awhile. But it is important that you maintain a positive attitude about this new adventure that you are about to go down. There are a lot of people over the age of 50 who are once again starting to look for their next special person. While it may not like it, the 50 plus dating scene is becoming more popular every single day. At first, you might feel like you are doing a bad job at dating again, and that is okay. We have created some dating tips that are designed to help you make a wonderful first impression on any date you go on.
Being able to create a nice and positive first impression can seem like very hard skill to master. But in all honesty, it is actually one of the easiest things to do. The key to what makes this so easy is that should just be you. While being yourself is easy, the hard part is to try not to be too casual or relaxed. You want to find a happy medium of being yourself without acting like you would if you were around family and friends. You are after all still trying to make a good impression on your date. Try to be gentle, subtle, and respectful of your date and you find that the date with start to seem effortless.
This is probably one of the most important points that has made its way onto our list. Having good manners plays a very role in creating a positive and lasting first impression. Manners is especially important if you met someone online. The way that the perceive you from online chats is what they will be expecting to see. So it is important that the way that you portray yourself online is also how you act when met your date for the first time. Behaving well will impress your date and could even get you a second date with the person that you like or admire.
-Do Not Talk About Family
While we know that family is an important part of your life, it is not a good topic to talk about on your first date. Try to keep in mind that a first date is similar to a job interview. You want to focus on getting to know your potential partner, and making sure that they feel like they know you, as a person as well. Try to keep the conversation engaging with topics like lifestyles, values, and even experiences. These topics will help you both see how compatible you are with each other.
-Do Not Treat Him Like a Doctor
Getting older can bring about all sorts of new aches and pains, but the first date is not the time to bring these up. We know that are always on your mind, but they should stay there. The first date should be a chance to get to share your new discovers or dreams not your deep dark challenges that you might be facing. While you might feel the need to be open and honest with them, keep in mind that situation might not the right place for such honestly.
While flirting is an important aspect when it comes to dating you want to be careful. Flirting should be subtle at first, this can include things like holding eye contact or leaning in closer. While some people think that flirting should be sexual teasing or even double entendre, it is not supposed to be like that. It is actually about the chemistry between two people, and letting that other person know that you are feeling something.
Take some time before your date to think about which topics you are willing to talk about and which ones you will not talk about. If you do not do this you might find that you have brought up a topic that creates tension, which can throw off a perfectly good date.
If you are picking up your date in your car, make sure that it is clean. Nobody wants to sit on empty food wrappers or old papers. Also, make sure that it smells good, there is nothing worse than getting into a car that has a strange smell.
-Plan Your Date
Plan out an event, other than having a meal, as your first date. This can be as simple as going to movie, concert or even for a walk around a nearby pond. Having an event to focus to on can be a real life-saver if the date is not going as well as you thought it would. Plus if you are wanting a relationship you will want to spend some time with your date, so you can determine whether or not they are a keeper.
-Know What You are Looking For
We know that choosing who you date, really comes down to how they look, but the most attractive person might not be the right fit for you. We suggest that you create a ‘Shopping List’ of what you are looking for in a new potential partner. Some items that could be on your list can include chemistry, values, status/money, appearance, and even how well they communicate with you. Once you have your list, you can use this to weed out those people that you feel do not fit into your list. Knowing what you are looking for will also save you from wasting your time on dates that do not fit into your standards.
Being rejected happens to everybody, so you need to be prepared. Not getting a second or third date is not a major loss, and it happens to the best of us. While being rejected is not the best feeling, make sure that you move on and continue to put yourself out there.
Just remember to be yourself and enjoy every date. The more time you spend out in the dating world the greater your chances of finding your next soulmate gets.