Tips for Dating Over 50
Dating can be challenging at any age but for singles over 50, it can be a daunting experience. The internet has changed many of the long-accepted rules about meeting people. But whether you are young or old, and whether you meet in person or on the web dating should be about mutual respect. Also, dating at any age should be fun!
Here are some tips and advice for 50+ dating:
The first tip is to stop putting so much emphasis on how you look. People come in all shapes, and sizes and very few have the body of a model on television. This is real life and no one, no matter their age, is perfect. The media and other outlets project certain body types and unrealistic standards. We often fall prey to believing we don’t match up.
People over 50 have a lot of life experience, and hopefully, you know that looks fade and change. It is a person’s attitude and character that matter the most. Substance and character are what keeps someone interested beyond the initial attraction. Try to have the same outlook when you are meeting other people because most of us are insecure about our looks. It takes a time to get to know the person behind the looks.
Listening is a skill that we need to build relationships. Most of us are adept at talking about ourselves or our favorite things. But a date needs to give and take. You need to let the other person know that you are interested in getting to know them and to hear what they have to say, as well. Listening is a talent that will help relationships last for a long time.
One taboo subject on the first date is money. There is no place in the first few meetings to discuss your salary or their career pay. You don’t need to get to know someone just as a reflection of their bank statement. While financial goals are important, that is a subject to be saved for when you know each other much better.
It is best to allow dates and to get to know someone to go naturally. It is much easier to let things happen organically. When we force issues, they don’t usually work out. Just take it slow and enjoy all the new things about the other person. Also, don’t pressure the other person about the next time to talk or go out. Just breathe and relax.
Past relationships should be left in the past. You don’t want to project past issues onto a new friend. We all carry baggage from the past, but try to resolve these matters on your own before you begin dating again. Don’t make a new person pay for wrongs done by someone else. Don’t go into a new relationship waiting to be hurt or waiting for the other person to make a mistake. They will make errors but they are not fatal, and they don’t always mean it’s a repeat of the past.
Dating for 50+, is exciting, frightening and challenging. Age doesn’t have anything to do with it, though. A great date will send you home singing and laughing, just as if you were a teenager. You can learn to love and enjoy the other person, no matter your age. And who knows? You might just find that forever love!